What a Morning…

our adventure begins

I mentioned on Monday that I found out that Matt has to go back to Florida for two weeks and he was leaving this morning. I’ve been going through a roller coaster of emotions the past 48 hours and I’m doing my best to keep a smile on my face around the kids.

Laying in bed this morning, I held on to his arms around me and squeezed him a little tighter and said a small prayer to myself. “Please, don’t let him leave.” — I’m just not ready to let him go yet. I was just getting use to his arms around me again after being gone for two weeks already.

We all got up, got ready, and headed out the door to take Matt to the airport. Usually the kids are bickering or playing a game, but this morning was different. It was a quite ride. We pulled up to the airport and the kids said their brave good byes and I got out and wrapped my arms around his neck. I couldn’t hold back the tears falling down my face and I began to sob. He looked me in the eyes and said, “We can do this. We are so much stronger than THIS. I love you more than you will ever know.” and kissed me.

The kid’s eyes were red and swollen from their tears when I got back in the car. I turned around and looked at them both and they told me they loved me and I told them we got this.

We all started our morning chores when we got home, then my phone rang. It was Matt.

“I’m not going to Florida anymore, I’m waiting for my bag, and I didn’t board the plane.”

Matt works in the restaurant industry and the store that he was going to in Florida failed an inspection (contractors fault) — so him going would be pointless now. No one could even go inside the restaurant until they passed.

SO my emotional roller coaster keeps on chugging along today. I have tears of joy, anxiety from all of the confusion and two extremely happy kids, because their Dad will be there on the first day of school.

I can’t help but think about that little prayer I said this morning though…

Wise Words Wednesday: (8/31) 

Sometimes I stumble across blogs with great words of wisdom. I’m hoping to do the same with Wise Words Wednesday

My husband leaves this morning for Florida, again. I found this on Pinterest last week. These words are never ringing more true to me than they are today. We might be going through a pretty shitty storm, but we are in this together. 

Two Thumbs Up Tuesday: (8/30)

Two thumbs up tuesday

Tuesdays are dedicated to posts I have come across over the past week that I want to share with all of you! It’s all about sharing the love and giving shout outs to some amazing bloggers! 

Domesticated Momster – Housewife Failure : Trista wrote this humorous post that had me nodding my head and laughing all at the same time. I’m sure we as spouses have all been here once or twice (or 20 or 30). Trista also has a Momster Link Up each week! You will have to go by and check it out, I have always found some great blogs through her!

A Kinder Way – Mental Health Series: Anxiety Attacks : Boy does Nikki hit the nail on the head with this post. The ironic part is I haven’t had a full blown out anxiety attack in awhile and I had one yesterday — I had my husband read this post days ago and he remembered everything he read, which helped him understand what I was going through.

Kids Coffee and Chaos – Adult talk 101! : This mama is hilarious. I found her through Trista at the Domesticated Momster. This post had me laughing all the way through it. There is no holding back here about sex, alcohol, and cussing!

Ashley A. Sapp – Vulnerability : This post is such a real and raw post. I could resonate with every word Ashley said. The stories we tell are our stories to tell — the good, the bad, and even the ugly. Being vulnerable is the therapeutic part blogging gives me. It helps remind me that life sucks sometimes, but look how far I’ve come since.

All In A Dad’s Work – Monday Morning Round Table : Stomperdad (Eric) is one of my favorite Dad Bloggers. Whenever I read his posts I feel like I’m at a friends house just catching up. He just has a fabulous way with words. I also wanted to give Eric a shout out for his new YouTube channel! You have to watch the time lapse wood stacking one! Who doesn’t love a good time lapse video!?

Hope you enjoyed these fabulous blogs I came across this week! Stop by and say hello! Tell them Jess from Not the Average Mama sent you over! 🙂

Trying to Be Supportive

I woke up early this morning. I woke up early, set up my essential oil difffuser with some lemon and peppermint, and started making my list of things the kids and I needed to get done today. School starts next Tuesday and we have some back to school shopping to do.

Then I got a call from my husband.

He told me that he has to go back to Florida on Wednesday for a week…maybe two.

I lost it. I literally broke down and had a full blown out anxiety attack. He just got home from Florida. He was JUST there for two weeks and it was the longest two weeks of my life. The only thing that got me through those two weeks was knowing I wouldn’t have to do that again. Yet here I am, getting ready for him to leave again for who knows how long.

He’s never missed a first day of school for the kids. He has always been there with me every year. The kids are going to be heartbroken but they are also the most understanding kids I have ever met. Last time, James said, “We have to be supportive of Dad.” and he is right. Those words are ringing in my head right now.

What is making me laugh between the tears is that I am a very independent person. I honestly don’t mind doing things on my own, it’s actually quite calming at times, but that doesn’t mean I WANT to. And I don’t want to go another week or two without my husband — he’s my best friend.

I actually have a lot that I need to get done today — I’ve spent enough time this morning crying over something I  cannot change. I have to make a few calls to family and friends since our plans for this holiday weekend went from the four of us, to the two of us and now to just me.

I’m not usually the Negative Nancy when I blog, but today is a little different. Today I’m sad — but tomorrow will be a new day.


25 Things About Me

Earlier this week, two of my favorite blogs to read did a fun post about 25 things you might not know about them. They were really fun to read and at the end of each one they said if you read it until the end then to go on and do the same. So here I am! Thank you Emily and Stephanie for passing this on!




[ONE]   I’ve broken 14 bones in my life. I played soccer for 19 years, and every single broken bone except ONE was from soccer. The one that wasn’t from soccer was my brother kneeing me in my tailbone when we were kids and he broke it. That was the absolute WORST! Try starting 5th grade with a donut looking seat.

[TWO]  I hate zombie shows and I’ve never seen ONE episode of The Walking Dead. Lucky me, both the kids want to be zombies this year for Halloween. Good thing my best friend is pretty much a make up artist.

[THREE]  I sweat when I eat ketchup. I love spicy food but EVERYTHING makes me sweat. You would think I was eating habanero chicken wings when in reality they are mild. I think it’s an intolerance to vinegar, but I’m not sure. Just thinking about this is making me sweat.

[FOUR]  I love making smoothies! Spinach, banana, blueberries/raspberries, greek yogurt, and a splash of orange juice. Mmmmm, I know what I’m going to make for breakfast!

[FIVE]  I use to drink Red Stag Jim Beam whiskey on the rocks. That was my go-to drink anytime I went out. Now…if I had one of those I would be feeling it for like two days. I stick to my wine and craft beer.

[SIX]  Only like six people in my personal life know that I blog. I don’t post my page or posts on my personal Facebook account and I don’t talk about it when I’m out with my friends. I like that this is something I have grown without help from people in my everyday life. 🙂 ( Not that there is anything wrong with sharing with friends or family!)

[SEVEN] I would love to have a treehouse in our backyard. Like from the show Treehouse Masters. If you have never seen the show it is on Animal Planet here in the U.S. and they build these luxury, gorgeous treehouses.

[EIGHT] I’m addicted to every Real Housewives show, except Atlanta. I started watching a few episodes of Atlanta this week though. I can’t help it. It has become a serious problem.

[NINE]  I tried pushing my brother out of a second story window when I was four and he was two. I don’t remember this at all, but my family tells the story all the time. Long story short, I gave my brother some juice and a cape and told him he could fly because the Care Bears just need special juice to fly. I kicked out the screen window on the second floor, got ready to push him and my dad grabbed him right before he fell out.

[TEN]  I hit a deer on the freeway going 75 mph on my way home from work one night last year. Smashed the whole front end of my brand new car and walked away without one scratch. If I had been in my previous car, the cop said I could have died. Thank you, Ford!

[ELEVEN]  I love cows. Like anything that has cows on it, I will buy. Not so much since I’ve got older, but if it’s cute and has a cow on it, I’m buying it. My mom made me a cow costume for Halloween one year — it’s still one of my favorite costumes.

[TWELVE] I just started eating tomatoes for the first time in my life a couple months ago. I LOVE making capreses now!

[THIRTEEN]  One of my brothers is an opera singer and I brag about him all the time! Speaking of bragging, here is his brand new website he put together. http://www.jakeskipworth.com

[FOURTEEN] I’m the oldest out of all of my siblings and step siblings, but when you put us all together — everyone thinks that I am the youngest.

[FIFTEEN]  I love to fish. I never thought I would like fishing, but my husband showed me a whole other side of it. It’s relaxing, peaceful and I totally understand why he loves his kayak so much!

[SIXTEEN]  I’m obsessed with essential oils. I never thought that oils could really help me in my every day life and let me tell you — they totally do. They work and I swear by them! I can’t tell you the last time I had to take a pill for a headache or allergies. I just rub some oils on and BAM — gone. The kids love them too, they fight over who gets the diffuser in their room every night.

[SEVENTEEN]  I’m actually a very shy person and people mistake that as me being a bitch. LOL I don’t know why but when out in front of a bunch of people I don’t know, I usually keep to myself at first. But once I open up — there’s no stopping me!

[EIGHTEEN]  Speaking of bitch. I have a terminal case of Resting Bitch Face. If you don’t know what that means, it means my “resting” facial expression screams “BITCH!” — I totally know I have it and I try to correct it when I notice I’m doing it. Hey, at least I own it.

[NINETEEN]  My husband threw me a surprise birthday party and asked me to marry him all in the same night. When he asked me to marry him in front of fifty people — the first words out of my mouth was “Shut up!” (like in a shocked way) and I think that scared him LOL

[TWENTY]  I love coffee but I can’t have it right when I wake up because of my acid reflux. I usually don’t even end up drinking any in the morning. I might have a cup of coffee three times max a month. Some things just aren’t worth the pain.

[TWENTY-ONE]  I’m a night owl. It might be my job or it might be because I’m totally not a morning person. Whatever the case, my husband can’t hang and I usually have to drag him to bed because he refuses to go to bed without me. So I usually stay up and read blogs I missed during the day after I get into bed. 

[TWENTY-TWO]  I’m very competitive. I apologize beforehand to people who play card games with the kids. They may or may not talk smack while playing UNO.

[TWENTY-THREE]   When I go out to karaoke bars with friends, I always sing Shania Twain “Any Man of Mine”.

[TWENTY-FOUR]  Every time I watch the movie Armageddon, I cry and call my dad. I never call him crying, but I will always call him after the movie is over and talk to him. He has no idea that I do this. Surprise, Dad!

[TWENTY-FIVE]  If you made it this far, I challenge you to do this yourself!


Ta Da! First Original Blog Post Published!

Awhile ago I mentioned about blogging for The Huffington Post. I’m not a big star blogger. I have my own little corner here of the blogosphere and I enjoy sharing with all of you!

Today I am going to toot my own horn! *TOOT TOOT* I’ve been a busy lady this month and to add on to my Feel Good Friday — I’m feeling good that my first original blog post was published on The Huffington Post website!

Check it out! Tell me what you think! Next to my bio picture there should be a “Become a Fan” button! Give it a click!

7 Things I Didn’t Know I Was Getting Into as a Stepmom

Feel Good Friday: Home Sweet Home

Vacation on an island

It’s Friday! Another week of reflecting and thinking of the five things that made me feel good. I look forward to this post every week — it’s a great way to remind myself that there is always good to find in my life. 

*ONE* ::: I reached over 400 followers Monday! I’m not a huge stats person. I like looking at the different countries but as for followers — I just like finding awesome blogs to read and if they think my blog is awesome too, even better! But seeing I hit over 400 WordPress followers in just 8 months, 200 Twitter followers and 33 Facebook followers in like 4 months?! I’m blown away and it just makes me feel good!


*TWO* ::: The kids and I went and visited Matt at work this week. We brought him pancakes and coffee. He gave us a tour around the tavern and it is looking amazing so far. He is the General Manager at a tavern style craft beer bar called World of Beer. They will serve over 550 bottled beers from at least 30 different countries and 50 draft craft beers. Along with some tasty tavern food — this place is going to be awesome! I’m so proud of him, he’s worked his ass off and I’m one proud wife. #proudwifemoment

*THREE* ::: We got to have our family pizza night this week. It was just the kids and I the past two weeks so it was nice having Matt back. The munchkins and I love a good deep dish BLT pizza, it is always a highlight when we get to split one!

*FOUR* ::: Teen Mom OG premiered on Monday night! Make fun of me all you want, but I LOVE Teen Mom and I’m not ashamed to admit it. You bet I was glued to the TV for two hours Wednesday afternoon after the kids left! (Ugh, another season of Farrah)


*FIVE* :::  I got to get back into my normal routine this week. Routine is everything to me. When things go out of whack it throws me off a bit but I’ve got better at adjusting to the change. It doesn’t happen often, which is what I remind myself. I got the house back into order and everything is put away. I don’t want to touch a suitcase for a long time! It makes me feel good that we are all home now and back into our normal routine.

My Heart Aches Today

My Heartaches Today

When scrolling through my Facebook feed yesterday I came across a post from a woman who I knew pretty well in my college years.

Back story really quick: The guy I dated and her now husband were roommates at Western Michigan University and we would hang out together on the weekends. They have been married for years now and have three gorgeous girls. Their youngest was born a preemie earlier this year and spent quite some time in the hospital, but she fought through and is a healthy gorgeous addition to their family.

Back to the Facebook post. She wrote about the out pour of love and prayers they have received from everyone about her husband. That they were going through a very hard time right now with the news of what happened to him. Come to find out he was hit by a car Tuesday night while out for a run. He sustained severe injuries and was rushed to the hospital, where he is still, in critical care.

This couple is a couple I have been envious of since I met them. The love they have for each other can be felt the second they walk into a room. He is a high school teacher and also a soccer coach in their hometown. She is an amazing mother and the two of them have built a beautiful life together, but Tuesday night their world stopped.

I couldn’t help but start crying. I couldn’t imagine what this woman must be feeling right now. I don’t even know what I would do. I haven’t stopped thinking about it since I came across the post. I haven’t stopped praying since I read her words. I am at a loss of words, as a wife and as a mother, I don’t even know where I would begin.

My heart aches from them. I don’t usually write about things like this but something just came over me and I had to write, but I just can’t seem to find the right words to say. If that makes any sense at all. At any time your life can change in the blink of an eye. At any moment your world could stop.

The past few months I have been really working on kindness in my life and the life around me. I think if I would of read those words months ago I would of felt angry at myself for holding on to so much pain of my past. That at any moment my world could really be crashing down and instead of being kind and living a life of happiness, I was too busy holding on to anger and hurt. But now, I don’t feel guilt, I feel heart ache for this family and all I can do is pray. I can pray and think positive thoughts.

They started a Go Fund Me Account and for the first time I donated to a cause and they have almost reached their goal in three hours! I am just amazed at the out pour of love and support for this family. Friends and family are truly a powerful gift to have.


Throwback Thursday: Extra Credit


Thursdays are dedicated to throwback posts or pictures I have found that triggered a funny, happy or even sad memory. It’s always fun to recycle old posts or to tell a story that I might not have told yet. Who doesn’t like reminiscing over old photographs?

Extra Credit

James is our oldest (8) and he is one smart and witty kid. He is mature beyond his years and loves to be a jokester. (I say this now, but ask me next week and I’m sure I might retract my statement) Over the years, his teachers have always told us what a pleasure he is to have in class and he quite the character in class. I don’t know if that’s a good thing or if the teacher is just sugar coating it, but that’s besides the point.

This past year he had a lot more homework and tests than the other years. He obviously kicked schools butt and did great, but he didn’t fail to amuse us along the way.

James is brilliant at math. Seriously, this kid loves numbers and figuring out math problems. I told him that writing and English class is more my forte so whenever that stuff comes around, I’m all his — but math…go ask your father.

Throughout the year the math tests would come home and I began to notice his teacher was adding on extra credit to the tests. I asked him if he knew what extra credit was and he said yes and I explained how important it was to do the extra credit, even if you didn’t know the answer. He asked what he should do if he didn’t know the answer and I told him just guess, but don’t ever leave it blank, because you just never know.

I was going over one of his tests one day after school and when I got to the extra credit, I couldn’t stop laughing.


I mean….those are both true statements, right? AND he didn’t leave it blank!  LOL “I will not blow up.” “I will not get shoved in a locker.”

Well done, my son. Well, done. I see my sarcasm has rubbed off on you. I hope it doesn’t get you into too much trouble in the future!