Our family has routine and order. Without it, I don’t think we would be where we are today. Without order I don’t think the munchkins would be doing as well in school and life as they are.
Having order in a house where the munchkins are only there for half the week, was a daunting task at first. The rules are different at both houses. Not much different, but different enough. Some might say that drilling order in their heads when they were younger was something we shouldn’t of done. Let kids be kids they said, but we just couldn’t let the order in our house fall apart. Children need structure in order to grow and thrive as young humans.
We have family rules in our house. Everyone has a purpose and everyone is loved. Setting rules wasn’t easy, because let’s be honest, no kid likes to follow the rules. By golly, we did it though! We stood our ground with the munchkins when they were younger. No meant no. There were no ifs, ands, or buts about it. If my hubby or I say something, the munchkins know we mean business. If we tell them if you do this, then that will be your consequence, they know we will follow through, every. single. time.
We don’t have to yell at them to get our point across. We have ingrained in their tiny brains that following the rules and keeping order in the house just works out best for all involved. The consequences are already set out, and they know the hammer will be dropped if they don’t listen. Are we strict parents? One might think so. Others might think we are teaching our kids respect and following the rules. Life is all about rules and order. People go to jail for not following the rules. There are no exceptions in life and if you look at today’s youth, it appears they didn’t have these rules when they were younger.
I know my step kids love me, even when I have to deal out the consequences. They know no matter what they do, I will still love them. It’s part of being a parent, but if we as parents don’t teach our kid’s to follow the rules, then who will?
It’s not about having control over everything, it’s about having order. Order in life just helps everything run smoother. Don’t you think?