5 Misconceptions About Stepmoms

I just love this blog post by Love and Lattes!
She made so many valid points that I’m sure all step moms have faced one way or another!

Love and Lattes

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Don’t judge a book by it’s cover, and don’t judge a situation unless you have walked in those same shoes.  Those are two phrases we hear often.  Being a stepparent is hard.  We are not the biological parent, but are still very much so, still a parent.  Many who have never been in our shoes often have confused ideas of who we are, what we are here for, and why we are here.

I think the number one person in most blended family situations that is the most confused about us is the bio-parent.  They are often defensive and unwelcoming of another parent entering not only their children’s lives, but also theirs.  I have come to realize over the years, that while I know my stepson will be in my life forever, so will his mother.  So, for you, bio-mom.  Here are 5 ideas of me that you have in…

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Meet and Greet Weekend @ Dream Big: 2/26/16

Dream Big, Dream Often

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It’s the Meet and Greet weekend at Dream Big!!  I cannot believe it is almost March, but as we all know time keeps marching on…pun intended!  lol

Ok so here are the rules:

  1. Leave a link to your page or post in the comments of this post.
  2. Reblog this post.  It helps you, it helps me, it helps everyone!  So don’t be selfish, hit the reblog button.
  3. Edit your reblog post and add tags.
  4. Feel free to leave your link multiple times!  It is okay to update your link for more exposure every day if you want.  It is up to you!

  5. Share this post on social media.  Many of my non-blogger friends love that I put the Meet n Greet on Facebook and Twitter because they find new blogs to follow.

Now that all the rules have been clearly explained get out there and Meet n Greet…

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The Versatile Blogger Award

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1. Show the award on your blog

2. Thank the person who nominated you.

3. Share seven facts about yourself.

4. Nominate 10 blogs. Link your nominees’ blogs.

Thank you Mother Wife Me for nominating me for this award! I love the idea of giving other blogs some love and sharing blogs we all find inspiring!

Let’s start off with the 7 facts about me!

1.  I’m a 28 year old wife, stepmama, daughter, sister, and friend.

2. My favorite animal is a cow and has been since I can remember. My family has a farm down south that use to have tons of cows on it when I was younger.

3. I loathe cold weather. My hands and feet are ALWAYS cold, doesn’t matter how many layers I have on either. They are still frozen.

4. I have terrible acid reflux in the mornings. It makes getting up really hard sometimes.

5. One of my brothers is a professional opera singer, and when asked where he got his talent from, he tells people he got it from me! I don’t think I can carry a tune but the munchkins tell me I would win The Voice 😂

6. My hubby is my best friend. Corny I know, but it’s true! He knows and understands me better then my own family.

7. I wish I lived in Florida. I think my overall health would improve if we moved there. All the broken bones from soccer are catching up to me now, arthritis at 28 is a bitch.

Now on to the nominations!

“When you consider nominating a fellow blogger for the Versatile Blogger Award, consider the quality of the writing, the uniqueness of the subjects covered, the level of love displayed in the words on the virtual page. Or, of course, the quality of the photographs and the level of love displayed in the taking of them.”

Fabulous Fit Mamas

From Stepmom to Real Mom

I Have An Opinion I’d Like To Share

Stepmom Incognito

Life Beyond Mommy

Cinderzena

Half Baked In Paradise

The Stepmomster

Car Ride Conversations

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I’m not sure how the topic of heaven came up in conversation today, but it did on the way home from school. This is how it went:

Little Miss: I wish I could meet Rosa Parks and Martin Luther King Jr and tell them thank you for helping change the bad laws.

Little Man: You still can. They are just in heaven.

Me: He’s right, just send a little prayer up.

Little Man: I mean, I think they are in heaven, but I don’t know, I’ve never been there.

Me: Well you were there before you were born, you just don’t remember it.

Little Miss: Yeah, that’s where all babies come from, from heaven.

Little Man: I have a question though. How do you know we aren’t in heaven right now?

Me: That’s a really deep statement bud. Do you feel like you are in heaven?

Little Man: Yeah, right now, I’m really happy, so yeah, I feel like I’m in heaven.

They truly say things that put a smile on my face all the time, but also take my breath away by how compassionate they are. Moments like these are what make being a step mom worth it.

Friday Night Links! Meet & Greet!

The Richness of a Simple Life

Hi everyone! Welcome to my Friday Night Link Party! This is going to be a 24 hour link party. I know that with the time zones it’s tricky so I decided to post this at midnight on Thursday London time, that way it will already be Friday in Australia and close it at midnight London time on Friday that way it gives everyone on the other side of the world time to join in as well. So if it’s not Friday night as you are reading this, it is someplace!

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My Ex Best Friend

This is a very hard for me to write about. I think it’s because I’m about to get pretty down and dirty about something personal in my life. I know I share my family life with you all, but my friend life is a different story. I’m very sensitive about this subject…

Four years ago I lost my two best friends. One I had been friends with for 12 years and another I had been friends with for 5 years. They didn’t physically die, but to me, in my heart, they did. They believed something about me that wasn’t true, they said I was being unfaithful to my hubby, and I wasn’t. Not only did they believe that, they sat him down behind my back and told him what they heard.

He was very upset, and had every right to be. If I was in his shoes, I would be beside myself. I understood where he was coming from, but he told me he believed ME. He knew it wasn’t true, and none of the stories added up. He was very angry with them both. Not for what they were doing to our marriage, but for what they did to mine and their friendship. I’m a very good friend, the type you can call in the middle of the night and I will always answer. I was beyond hurt, and I cut them out of my life. In my eyes, they were toxic.

This was a year before Hubby and I were to be married. I lost my maid of honor and a bridesmaid. I was a complete mess. I slipped into a deep depression and I think I lost about 20 pounds. I lost my sparkle, and everyone was noticing.

I planned my bridal shower and wedding without my two best friends. Clearly, I didn’t have a bachlorette party because partying isn’t anything I wanted to do at the time. I was preparing for the happiest day of my life, and I was miserable because the two people I couldn’t imagine not being apart of my life, weren’t going to be there. It was a total heartbreak.

For years I couldn’t understand why. Why would they do that to me? How could someone who has known me for over 10 years believe something so not like me, especially with the man who changed me into a better woman. Why would they hurt me? Why would they do this before my wedding? I had to let it go. I had to let go of the anger and hurt. I didn’t do anything wrong, they did. Yes, I was in a lot of pain from losing them, but in the end, I’m happy I knew that now instead of later.

A few months ago at the Kenny Chesney concert, (I use to go every year with my friend I had known for 12 years) that friend texted me and asked if I was there. I said yes and she asked to meet up. Her Hubby and my hubby are friends, so they obviously wanted to see each other. When I saw her, my heart sunk into my stomach. I missed her. She had a baby in the midst of us not talking and I missed out on that. We both hugged each other and cried. She apologized for her part in everything, and told me she was wrong. She didn’t realize at the time what she said could have done to my marriage. I was hesitant at first, but this was the friend I missed after all the years. I missed her friendship and I was ready to mend it.

Last night I received a Facebook message from the other friend. The ring leader of the whole issue…this is her letter.

Hi (Insert My Name),

I know this is way past due but I just wanted to say that I am really sorry for the way things ended between us. I realize now that what I did & said was wrong on so many levels. I regret not only bringing certain people into that situation but also for allowing them to influence the way I thought, reacted & handled it.

There are so many things I’ve wanted to say to you throughout the years…I just never knew how.
I know I did but I truly never meant to hurt you (insert my name). You are a great person & one of the very best friends I’ve ever had. I am so sorry for treating you the way I did.

I don’t expect anything to come of this message & understand that you’ll probably hate me forever for what I did… I just thought you deserved an apology after all this time.
I hope you, (hubby’s name) & the kids are doing great & wish nothing but the best for you all.

💗 ex best friend

Wow. Wow is all I had to think. It took her four years. FOUR YEARS to apologize! But my question was why. Why apologize now? Why do this now? What is your angle? My walls are up and I’m on the defense.

I didn’t want to respond at first. I wasn’t going to, but then I did. I let her know I was angry and hurt for a long time, but I let that go. I wasn’t going to let that pain control my life anymore. I didn’t think about her. I didn’t miss our friendship. I didn’t miss her.

Was that mean? I’m sure it was. Did I mean it? Abso fucking lutley.

After getting that message, a huge weight lifted off my shoulders. I wasn’t crazy after all. I didn’t do anything to deserve how they treated me. I am a good person. I have always been a good person, and the friends I have now, I cherrish and love.

I guess this was my closure with her. This was my moment to tell her how I really felt, and she heard me. Rumor around the grapevine is that friend has Lyme Disease, maybe she did this for HER conscious, maybe she actually meant it, who knows. All I know is I found my life is better without the toxic people in it, and I’m thankful for the positive friendships I do have.

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A Relaxing Tuesday

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What a relaxing week after such a crazy few weeks. Kids are on break and we just relaxed the past few days.

These are the days I long for with them. Yesterday we all went to the movies, and today we cuddled and watched movies on Netflix, HBO, and Amazon Prime. Hubby made breakfast for dinner last night, and the munchkins had left overs tonight. I made pizza rolls with wine for Hubby and I. Classy, I know.

You don’t have to always make a dinner from scratch every night. Sometimes hummus with pita will do.

Little Miss had a bad cough the past couple of days, so she just wanted to be cuddled and held. Hey, I’m not complaining. I’ll take all the love I can get 😊 Little Man has been in a reading mood lately. He has read 2 full chapter books since he has been at our house this week. I love watching them fall in love with reading. Makes my heart happy.

Valentine’s Day was great. Hubby surprised me with two new books, 2 bottles of our favorite wine, a dozen red roses, and a card that he always writes from his heart. He knows me too well. Wine, books, and love letters ❤ We also have a date night planned in March, hopefully a little baby making will be involved!

So far this week hasn’t been too bad, besides the email I got from an ex best friend. But that’s a blog for another day…

Hope everyone’s week is off to a good start!

Quote Challenge Day 3

Today is the last day of my quote challenge and I’m happy I did it! I came across so many quotes that I had forgotten about. Thank you, Osyth!

Rules:
1. Acknowledge the blogger who nominated you.
2. Post 1-3 quotes per day for 3 days.
3. Nominate other bloggers for the challenge.

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“Pick your battles. You don’t have to show up to every argument you’re invited to.”

This one hits home to me. I have had to learn to pick my battles. I’m a headstrong woman who has no issue letting you know if I have a problem with you and explaining why I do. But over the years, especially with the munchkins, I have had to learn to pick my battles. Being in a blended family you also have to pick your battles because it won’t just effect you, it effects so many other people. People you love and care about.

So I say to all of you, pick your battles wisely, and if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.
Take that high road!

But maybe not all the time….

Nominations:

Lisa

From Stepmom to Real Mom

You’re Not Alone In This World

Cinderzena

Thanks for all the love the past 3 days everyone!

Quote Challenge Day 2

Thank you Osyth for the quote challenge nomination. I’m excited to discover old quotes and new ones as I look for them the next 3 days! I am going to nominate all of the blogs at the end of the 3 days.

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“Love is my decision to make your problem my concern.”

Love is a beautiful thing. Love makes us do crazy things. When hubby and I got married we shared sacred vows to be there through the good times and the bad. Through sickness and in health. I know if I had a problem, it will always be a concern to hubby. We are in this together. His problems are my problems and my concerns are his concerns. Love conquers all.

Together we face our problems and concerns, and together we conquer them all. With him, I know what true love feels like.

Quote Challenge Day 1

Thank you Osyth for the quote challenge nomination. I’m excited to discover old quotes and new ones as I look for them the next 3 days! I am going to nominate all of the blogs at the end of the 3 days.

I want to start off by saying I know this isn’t exactly a quote, it’s a hymn, but for some reason today it has been in my head. I listened to Carrie Underwood and Vince Gills rendition of it on repeat while doing errands all morning. This is my favorite church hymn, and it fills my heart with love every time I hear it. I’m not a very religious person, even though I grew up going to church 4-5 days a week. I’m thankful for the hymns, it was my favorite part of going to church.

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“..O Lord, my God,
when I in awesome wonder
Consider all the worlds
Thy Hands have made;
I see the stars,
I hear the rolling thunder,
Thy power throughout
the universe displayed

Then sings my soul,
My Saviour God, to Thee,
How great Thou art,
how great Thou art…”