The munchkins going back to their mom’s house use to be hard for me. We spend Sunday through Wednesday together, and sometimes it’s just the 3 of us when hubby is working. (I do not work those days so I do the school pick ups, pack the lunches, pack snacks, play games, make dinner, go over homework, volunteer at the school, ect.) I love being able to give them my undivided attention, but when they leave a piece of me will leave with them. It’s really hard.
We don’t have children of our own but one day, hopefully soon, we will. We didn’t want to rush things after we got married. The munchkins had so much going on in their lives and we didn’t want to throw in something else, so we’ve waited to expand our family.
I worry about them when they are gone. I worry if they are getting enough attention. Every time they come back to our house they are starving for attention and it breaks my heart. Their step siblings are all older and unfortunately they pick up their step siblings bad habits. How do you even begin to deal with that? I’m always at a loss of words when they come back with habits that they know are not allowed at our house. Like you can’t watch tv, play video games, play with your iPad ALL day, we do not allow that. You can also not eat junk food and drink pop for every meal. Also the words they use are not meant to come out of a 6 and 8 year olds mouth, they aren’t swearing but just not appropriate.
I know we have no control over what goes on at their mother’s house, but how do we handle correcting these bad habits without worrying about stepping on toes a.k.a. a total meltdown from their mother? Any advice would help!